Kenny Rogers - You Can't Make Old Friends (duet with Dolly Parton) [Offi...

Celebrating Old Friends

The last song for this years Summer of Music!

 Oh no 😢

Dona Anderson

Confession time again. 

It's hard for me to wait to hear these summer songs so quite often I'll replay them several times to get my fix. 

It may be a song to sing, dance around, have a cry, feel in my soul - you know what I mean. 

This song touched my Heart when I heard it especially since it's sung by Kenny Rogers and Dolly Parton who I've enjoyed for years.

And, I thought it would be a great song to end this years summer of music.

It's about Friendships.

We can have many different friends that are part of what we do and practice, and I think about YOU, my visitors to this Blog for years as my friends.

And I think about the other ones who live down the street, or a hundred or thousands of miles away, and there are those we all hold on to in person -  those "old Friends" that no matter what are part of our lifetime. 

I related to this song in a couple of ways.

I loved being reminded of the old friends we still have and those lost over the years that will always be part of who we are, our Memories and Stories. 

And then, the song lyrics connected me to the journey of married life - the highs and lows that come along to challenge us. 

The days and years that we continue to share, learn from, have a hand to hold and the special moments shared to remember and smile about.

That's just me, my thoughts.

What did it say to You?

Have a listen ... see what it brings up for you.

If you missed any of this years songs for summer they're in the archives.

Music from previous years for July & August 2017, 2018 also
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Bye for now, Dona.

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Keeping the Love alive

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Married for 50 YEARS!

Dona Anderson

What keeps it going after the Honeymoon effect wears off?  

In a few days it will be 50 years.

This photo is of the front for a card I had made for my husband for our 20th anniversary.

I kept the card in the cedar chest and then a while back I gave the chest away so what do I do with all the stuff inside.

The stuff that you want to keep, to look at again - and fast forward it's already 30 years later.

Last year I posted a wonderful song video you can link to here from Leonard Cohen for our 49th anniversary and mentioned that I didn't know the secrets to a long relationship - we all make mistakes and change over the years.

We've all had different

challenges to face ...

We've all had different challenges to face from life choices, health, our careers, how we grew up and communicate to what we take on, let go of and lots more.

The universe responded a few weeks later when we went to visit our Daughter.

Since we were there for about 10 days, one of our Mom & Daughter projects was trying to downsize her book collection. She found 2 copies of the same book, only the covers were different so she gave me one copy to bring home.

It was a book related to marriage.

I never really looked for marriage books before but after writing the post last year I thought I'd see what it had to say so it became one of my books to read last summer.

The book is called,

 The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

The Secret to Love That Lasts

The five languages are Words of Affirmation - Quality Time - Gifts - Acts of Service - Physical Touch.

Through it I found some things we were doing well, some OK and of course some that needed fixing.

The ones that needed fixing were more ones I Didn't Realize - had never thought of it, or you get lazy about over time and think they're not important anymore.

We seem to always want to check off the ones you do well but since each partner is different we sometimes forget we have different wants, needs and feelings.

We hear and see things differently and even can have a totally different sense of humor.

What I may think I'm doing good at maybe he doesn't feel the same, and we usually don't ask those questions.

We appreciate some things more than others and feel the loss of some things more than others.

In the book, there's a series of questions at the end to answer that help us discover our Love Languages and one of mine fit and the other I'm not really sure about but I do see how it can cause problems when we're not working on them. 

I recommend it for helping us recognize and understand more of how everyone has their own needs and the important part - the exchange.

We all need those little reminders once in a while.

Don't need the marriage one - He has other books for different relationships as well.

Back to the card above...

I remember sitting on the floor 30 years ago and wondering
what to write on the inside. 

What did I need to say to show my Appreciation and Love. 

It didn't take long for a list to appear. 

Real stuff isn't always in store bought cards.

30 years later - the list would be even longer!

30 years later, I'm going to give him the card again!!!

Hope to have you back next week,

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50 years - now I REALLY feel OLD!